October 17, 2013 by *Onyi*
6 Do not eat the bread of a miser,[a]
Nor desire his delicacies;
7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.
“Eat and drink!” he says to you,
But his heart is not with you.
8 The morsel you have eaten, you will vomit up,
And waste your pleasant words. (New King James Version)
This is another admonishment about knowing the company you keep and who you dine with. Who is a miser? The dictionary describes the miser as being someone who hoards money or possessions, often living miserably or a selfish person who is unwilling to share.
I come from a country in which this word is thrown about. It is often thrown about as a manipulative tool to get you to act in accordance to what the user of the word wants. That’s one reason there is a call to be careful. There is a difference between someone holding back because they don’t really have to give and someone who has but refuses to share.
Now, the problem with being miserly is that you don’t get to enjoy what you have. It is safe to describe that as poverty of the spirit. Some might even go ahead to describe it as a form of worship to Mammon. It is indicative of the love of money. Beyond that, it also shows a person who lives in fear. Fear that everything will be taken and they will find themselves poor. This is a kind of person who will calculate everything they do for you and will expect you to pay up someday.
Be careful when dealing with people with this kind of personality. Make sure everything is spelt out. If a person has but does not want to share, understand that person is not obligated to share with you. Let the person be. Do not take, when you have a clear understanding of the kind of person you are dealing with or otherwise, you will end up regretting everything you took and will end up paying back, and often paying back in ways that are against your personal principle. Don’t let anyone manipulate you into doing, what you are unable to do. It is important that in all our dealing with others, we ask for discernment to clearly see the characters of who we are working with, so we do not get caught up in the land of, ‘if I had known’.
Lord open my eyes to the character of those that I have around me. Help me know when to take and when to say, no, thank you. Help me, not to get caught up in people’s behaviors. Help me always to give when I have with a clear heart without expecting anything back in return.
- Single Standards… (livfearlessly.wordpress.com)
- A Gift Without a Bow (anappleofgold.wordpress.com)
- (#65) The Proverbs of Solomon 13:5-The Bread That Tastes Like Rocks (fellowshiproom.org)
- (#87) The Proverbs of Solomon 14:26-Are You Sure? (fellowshiproom.org)
- Proverbs 23:1 -3 (proverbsmeditation.wordpress.com)